I know you’re probably not used to seeing poop being talked about on an info page like this – but welcome to Kim Fiske! (You never know what I’m gonna talk about!)
Let’s think back to little kids again.
Have you noticed when babies turn into toddlers – still in a diaper, but walking around? Have you ever “lost” them in your house and wondered for a moment where they were? Have you found them under a table? In the corner? Behind the couch? They were hiding somewhere. Upon further investigation you discovered they were pooping?
I have wondered why? Why do toddlers go and poop in hiding? Where did they learn they should hide? Why are they seemingly embarrassed? They’ve been pooping all their lives and I had been in on pretty much all the stinky mess they’ve made since birth.
Then it hit me! All of those “stinky messes” I changed probably had me making some sort of “yucky, stinky” face or even on really bad ones, gagging.
Do you see how when their cognition started to develop, they had a negative association with what was happening in their diaper? They didn’t have language around it. They didn’t know logically how they were feeling. They just FELT something a little “off or weird” about this activity and their survival brain gave them the message to “Flight” – Run away. Hide! This behavior may not be acceptable.
We come with preloaded brain wiring, as primates, to make sure we ARE acceptable in our community. These people HAVE to want to take care of you. Without logic, we are rather doomed.
"People pleasing was an obsession of mine. I was willing to sacrifice everything, income, relationships and my own self-value in pursuit of this track. The problem was I could NEVER make anyone happy and I seemed to be surround by people who kept pointing out my short comings instead of appreciating my efforts. Once I discovered this track was destroying my life and I mustered the courage to run to the roar, I found myself free, happy and magically surrounded by people who LIKE me!" - Sally